What happened?

I lost posted on the 19th?  And it’s the 26th?  I guess this isn’t as bad as I thought.

Papa and I enjoyed the Charlotte (Michigan) Bluegrass Festival at the end of last week.  It as a good show and and killer lineup.  I felt optimistic about Bluegrass in Michigan when the Grascals closed the show Saturday night.  Why?  Becasue a large group of people who sat next to us had never seen a bluegrass show before.  They came in for Saturday night, and thought the $30 they paid for the evening was cheap entertainment.  The guy next to me couldn’t believe they could have been there for everything, the whole three day weekend for only $50. 

Now, these aren’t the usual bluegrass festival attendees.  But, the usual suspects are getting older, and on fixed incomes.  We need the other people out there to help us keep these great shows going. 

I’m no promoter, but I’m thinking that someone should be capitalizing on the LOW prices for a whole weekend of entertainment.  An advertisement in a local paper should say — bring the entire family to this weekend’s bluegrass festival.  Only $75 (or whatever) at the gate for all three days of shows.  I have more text, contact me and I’ll sell you the wording for the ad for only $50 – so I can attend next year’s show!

Oh yes, and, there should be a Bluegrass in the Schools program at the end of the school year in the towns near the event.

More on the Michigan shows later this week.

Sunday, we went over to D2 and S-in-L’s home, and we came home with some hitchhikers in our van.  The official reason for the visit was that a birthday was celebrated by GD2.  She’s 3!  All three kids piled into my van that afternoon, and we headed for home.  We had a quiet day at home yesterday, but we off to the Detroit Zoo today!

Pickin’ on CF —- new site!

Please check out a new web site I just published for a friend. While you’re at it, put the show on your calendar and join us!

Back to Blogging Again

I’m over here in Charlotte, Michigan waiting for the annual bluegrass show to begin.  The line-up is a good one, we are going to enjoy every minute. 

After two dry weeks, there were a couple of thunder showers here this morning.  In spite of that, here I am at a hot-spot, checking e-mail and posting a few things.  The bike ride over was fine, and I’ve waited out the showers, I’ll be heading back soon.

If you attend the show, please introduce yourself.  We’re camping in Lex.

The End of the World?

My Mom died last week, and suddenly everything changed.

It’s interesting how different people react differently to the same situation.  Mom was sick for a long time, and I became used to the problems, almost immune to her daily ills and complaints, aches and pains.  Always upbeat, I was a kind of  cheerleader – let’s do this, please attend this concert with us, come over for dinner.  I also became able to do what had to be done–nights in the ER, hospital visits, prayers.  I did what I committed myself to doing, I showed up, listened, talked, helped as much as I could.  And, for me, the act of doing made everything else tolerable.  Till there was nothing I could do for her, and my world came crashing down on me.  The whole thing runs together somehow, in the tumbler that is my mind right now.

Other family members who weren’t in such close touch had wildly different reactions.  Some out-of-town relatives seemed quite suprised at how ill she had become; some very sad, and wondering why I’m not as upset as they.  Some are as bewildered as I, wondering how the world spun out of control so quickly.

My little granddaughter (GD1) has visited me since she was about 18 months old; and, especially lately, we have included a visit to “GG” for (great-grandmother) each visit.  There was a cupboard of toys at Mom’s, toys different from those at home, or at my house. There is also a large book of paper dolls here at my house, puchased by Mom for GD1.  The night of our family get-together here for Mom, GD1 wanted the paper dolls at bedtime, and she played with them until she relaxed enough to sleep.

Our precious little girl must have had a profound connection with those visits.  Yesterday, when her family was headed home, GD1 decided that she would stay and visit.  It wasn’t a clear cut, easy decision.  After the visitors were gone, she wanted to go to “our village”, which is Greenfield Village, visited by us many times, and many with her. 

The Village visit was interesting to us, as we followed her lead.  We hit all the high spots, the train, the cars, the carousel, the bus.  Additionally, she had a mid-afternoon snack of potatoes and gravy at the Taste of History.  After some ice cream, as we made our way back to the car, she said, “Well, everything is still here, ” to no one in particular. 

So, while I’m trying to figure out why the world continues to turn and no one seems to notice my Mother is gone, GD1 takes comfort from the fact that the world does indeed continue as before.

Stuff

I just went out to check my our garden.  Papa has been hard at work, and it shows.  Since today will be cool, hardly getting above 60 according to the weather, so nothing will change out there.  But, all is well as you can see.  Last year, during GS1’s graduation open house a neighbor commented on our garden,  saying it was the “gold standard” in the neighborhood.  A strange coment for sure.  I enjoy the garden, and we’ve found if we work hard in early June, the rest is easy.  Today, I had a visitor

We saw Michael Cleveland and Flamekeeper, featuring Audie Blaylock at the Ark Sunday Evening.  It was a good show.  It was nice to see a few Detroit area friends also made the show.  Michael Cleveland is a great fiddler, but there is much more to this group than that.  Like Audie’s singing, like Jesse Brock on that mandolin. 

This has been a frustrating few days for Granny.  My Mom left the nursing home and entered hospice care at her home.  That was on  Friday, probably not the best timing.  A nurse signed her up, and ordered several things, including a hospital bed,  and told us the schedule and the drill.  The hospital bed will arrive today, a big help we’ve needed for a few days.  S-Dad is having a hard time caring for her, but the whole family is helping. 

Why, Why Why

Several years ago, when I was working full time, Papa visited a well-known disease-specialized clinic and it’s hospital regularly, having chemo, surgery, radiation, and a variety of blood work and other associated services.  We waged a continuing battle to have the charges billed to the correct insurance, the write-off’s entered, and details taken care of.  This is not easy when you face a major illness.

I managed quite well except for one charge.  The office was simply unable to bill that charge to the correct insurance; they billed an older insurance under which we no longer had coverage.  Bills for services before and after that date were sent to the correct insurance, but that one was repeatedly sent to the wrong insurer. I reasoned, called, visited, sent copies of our card (which they also copy at each visit), screamed, pleaded, cried; all to no avail.

Finally, they billed the correct insurance. I should have framed the paper the insurance company sent back: it said that they weren’t obligated to pay since the claim was filed more than a year after the date of service.  Eventually the bill from that day was sent to “collections”.  The last communication I had on that bill was when the highest supervisor I could reach said, “If you don’t pay the bill I will report you to the credit bureau and ruin your credit”.

My reaction was predictable for someone under the stress of an ill husband, a full time job and a family. I said, “Go ahead. I haven’t paid it, and I won’t pay it, it’s not my fault that your operations couldn’t get the billing right.”  We were reported to the credit bureau, but I’m happy to let you know that it hasn’t affected our ability to buy anything.  I simply sent each reporting agency a letter telling our side of the story, along with a call log of my communication with the billing department, and a copy of the insurance EOB.

On January 9 of this year, Papa visited them again for his regular check-up.  That disease has been gone from our lives for a number of years, in fact, Papa may have just one more CT scan and then never have to think about it again.

But, there is a hitch.  The billing of this clinic is done by a partner.  The partner’s operations are (still) sub-standard.  Papa’s insurance issued an “Explanation of Benefits” for the January 9th clinic visit on February 12, mailed it to the facility, and we got a copy in our on-line account.  The portion of the charged fee which is to be paid was reduced substantially by “insurance contract”.  It might be simpler to say that the clinic’s bill was $523, and the insurance EOB says that $447 is in excess of the “contracted amount” and that the facility may charge $75.20.  Specifically, $9.06 of the amount is a co-pay and $66.14 was applied to Papa’s deductible.

Since that date, I’ve been trying to get the billing office of the clinic to enter the information on the EOB into their computer and send us a corrected bill.  I have a log, and it’s contents reveal:

  1. The EOB faxed to the office 10 or more times.
  2. Made 17 phone calls
  3. Sent 2 e-mails from a form on their website, and sent to “replies” to an e-mail they sent us.
  4. Checked the clinic’s on-line account daily since they admitted having my fax.

It actually took 3 weeks to get those people to admit they got the fax.  I must say that these people raise the definition of  incompetence to an higher art form than I could imagine. They only responded after I sent this complaint from an on-line “comment form”:

  • Why can’t the account be updated?
  • Why did a customer service representative tell me on the phone that they couldn’t notify me when it is, since it is customer responsibility to call back about a disputed account?
  • Why is this a disputed account when the insurance company sent a EOB on a timely basis and you failed to enter it into your system?
  • Why is this a disputed account when I have repeatedly faxed (in excess of 10 faxes) and called about your failure to respond to the insurance EOB?
  • Why does it take weeks to enter one simple EOB?
  • What are you people doing there?

Their response was to ask for ANOTHER fax, and promise timely action. That was on May 22, and now is it May 31. Even with the weekend and the holiday, that is 5 working days. I’ve been told that, “We’re working on it.”

I’m not sure if there is a moral to this story, but I’ve learned this:

  1. Keep a log of all your medical visits.
  2. Match your medical bills and insurance paperwork for each visit. Read them.
  3. Don’t pay what you don’t owe, although it is tempting to do so, if just to make the idiots go away.
  4. Don’t wait until several weeks have passed to ask for corrections. Ask every day, put it in writing, ask for a supervisor, keep at it. There are typically toll-free phone numbers and fax numbers.
  5. Keep a log of your communication, written and oral. Use dates and names. At the end of every conversation, ask the customer service person, “What is your name? Can you spell that please? Is there an extension number at which I can reach you if I continue to have problems?”
  6. Find a patient liaison, or whatever person is available and get help.
  7. Ask your insurer to help.
  8. Don’t quit.

Oh yes, and good luck.

By the way, I didn’t name names, Papa still has to visit there again.  And, the medical services are excellent, they saved his life.

Revelation!

I fixed the RSS feeds. I got spam. 100% correlation.

So, the RSS feed that enables me to let the world know I’m wasting time writing for my own satisfaction, and pretending that someone wants to read it, also makes it possible for the cyber-world slimeballs to attempt to use my resources to spread their own trash.

Today’s lesson: it is hard to be in the world and not take part in it. Today I took part, I deleted the spam. Keep the actual comments to the blog very clean, or send to me on my contact form. I’m deleting everything identified as spam without looking at it. There aren’t enough hours in the day to read it, and I’m not interested anyway.

Nature’s Wonders

We traveled “up north” over the holiday.  Driving from one country cemetery to another, on an old two-track we saw a flash as a deer jumped off the road in front of us.  Just ahead, in the road lay an new fawn.  Papa came to a stop as the fawn struggled to it’s feet and headed for the woods.  Papa grabbed the camera and got a few shots of the little fellow before me moved on.

Every wonder what “deer in the headlights” means?

Country Current – Bluegrass Unit

There has been some discussion recently about the instruments played by the US Navy Band, Country Current — Bluegrass Unit.  We saw them in May, 2004 and I posted a couple of photographs.  They aren’t the best, but they do show the instruments played by the group.  (Yes, that’s Roy Lewis).

Lost, the LIST

This is a real problem, I have some shopping to do, and my list is not in my purse.  Really, it’s nowhere that I can see.  I have my “to do” list, it’s right on my desk.  But, the shopping list traveled with me yesterday, and is now MIA.  Whenever I can’t find something, I remember my mother saying (a quote from a poem):

but darling, it must be somewhere or other 
 Have you looked in the inkwell?

 I have not looked in the inkwell, but darn near everywhere else.  That’s what I get for not finishing my shopping yesterday.  But, I did try.  One store was no longer at the location I drove to, and then rush hour traffic, etc, etc.  All excuses, but it doesn’t solve my problem.  I’ll just buy everything I see, or something like that.

Here’s the poem:

Hiding
Dorothy Aldis
I’m hiding I’m hiding
And no one knows where;
For all they can see is my
Toes and my hair.

And I just heard my father
Say to my mother –
“But, darling, he must be
Somewhere or other;”

“Have you looked in the inkwell?”
And Mother said, “Where?”
“In the inkwell” said Father. But
I was not there.

Then “Wait!” cried my mother –
“I think that I see
Him under the carpet.” But
It was not me.
“Inside the mirror’s
A pretty good place,”
Said Father and looked, but saw
Only his face.

“We’ve hunted,” sighed Mother,
“As hard as we could
And I am so afraid that we’ve
Lost him for good.”

Then I laughed out aloud
And I wiggled my toes
And Father said – “Look, dear,
I wonder if those

“Toes could be Benny’s?
There are ten of them, see?
And they were so surprised to find
Out it was me!